This has been crystallizing for a while and I finally honed it to this kernel:
“If you have to use a shoehorn,
maybe it’s not the right shoe.”
Think about it. This applies to much of life.
No. I’m not saying that “right things” are effortless. I’m simply noting that sometimes we want so much for something to be “the right thing” that we try to shoehorn it into a place it isn’t mean to be.